I didn’t start out as a boudoir photographer. I didn’t even know boudoir photography existed when I first began my journey into photography. When you start out, you “specialize” in everything. I was trying out all different types of photography and my business card read – portraits, engagement, family, children, seniors. I didn’t even have weddings on there because I had yet to photograph one.
Fast forward and my very first bride EVER asked me if I could take sexy photos of her because she wanted to gift an album to her soon to be hubby. I was nervous and didn’t know what to expect but I agreed to do it! The shoot turned out to be a lot of fun and we got some amazing images that her husband LOVED.
After that shoot, I had another one of my brides ask me to do a sexy photo shoot for her husband-to-be…then I got another bride who asked…this happened a few more times before I finally realized that a) I should probably start officially offering boudoir photography to my brides and b) I was falling head over heels in love with this genre of photography.
It didn’t take me long to realize I wanted to do boudoir photography more.
The session that sealed the deal for me was early on. I showed one of my clients a photo on the back of the camera during her session and she goes, “Wow! I didn’t know I could look like that!” That is why I do boudoir. Because every woman should be able to look at a photo of herself and go wow, that’s really me?
Boudoir to me means confidence and inner beauty. As much as it seems boudoir photography is all about outer appearances, it really doesn’t matter what you look like. Boudoir isn’t about being the perfect size, the perfect shape – I mean, what even is that?? – It’s about having confidence in yourself. When you have confidence, it oozes out of you. Your confidence touches every part of yourself and it’s something you can’t fake. This is hard for some people, leading them to say excuses like “I’m not skinny enough” “I don’t see myself like this/this type of session isn’t for me” and the
personal attacks excuses go on and on and on…
You have it in you. I know you do because I see it come out during my sessions. I pull it out of you! When you are confident, you are beautiful, stunning, fierce and unstoppable. You could have clothes on and still gain the same experience out of this photo session. What you wear (or don’t wear) doesn’t matter – it’s just the icing on top. What matters is finding it in yourself to feel like you are feminine and enough.
These are all reasons why I became a boudoir photographer. Women need more love and self respect in this world. Many of us feel the need to compare and judge ourselves based on other people’s high light reels. We go to the grocery store and don’t share a smile with the people we pass. We don’t compliment the woman with the nice shoes or who looks like they did their hair extra nice today. Why?
Boudoir to me is extending my light and my confidence to others. I have the skills and the means to show women they are beautiful. I have the courage to give them an experience unlike any other. That’s why I became a boudoir photographer – to extend compassion instead of comparison and to show you the truth about yourself: that you are enough.